One important thing to note is that a relationship is a shared growth, not perfection and healthy relationships aren’t just about never fighting but they are more about growing together in good and hard times. So, a relationship should comprise trust, communication and effort.
3 Relationship Myths to Forget
1. Love means never saying sorry. Saying sorry and admitting that you're wrong when you really is would help to build trust
2. They should read my mind. Don't just assume that your partner knows your need even without saying it out loud. You need to speak your needs and do it kindly like “ I feel lonely”.
3. Fighting is a bad relationship. The truth is, conflicts, if handled well, strengthen the bonds so greatly.
7 Steps to Build Stronger Bonds
1. Listen Like They Matter.
You should always put your phone down when in a discussion to show that your partner matters and always make Make eye contact.
2. Share Small Moments Daily
Sharing moments together builds a relationship. The moment could be sharing a meme, cooking together, or taking a 10 minutes walk together. These little positive moments help to build security.
3. Appreciate Out Loud.
It's good to always appreciate each other by saying thank you and always be specific on what you are thankful for.
4. Set Kind Boundaries
If you need to set boundaries, do it nicely and kindly like “I need quiet time after work, let’s talk at 7?”
5. Fight Fair
If you fight, do it fairly by letting your partner know how they hurt when. Make your feelings known to them and don't attack each other
6. Repair After Arguments
There is no perfect relationship and no relationship without arguments. What matters is saying sorry after the argument like “I’m sorry I yelled at you”. Always hug each for at least 20+ seconds as it helps to strengthen bonds.
7. Grow Together
It’s very necessary to grow together. You should try a new hobby like dancing class, hiking, volunteering. These shared experiences can help create joyful memories.